How to Approach Dating Based Off Your Human Design Type

By Sara Bacon

One of the best parts of Human Design is its ability to tap into your unique way of making decisions, optimizing your energy, and approaching opportunities, with the main goal of adding more ease, alignment and joy to your life. And this can be applied to everything: how you are best meant to work, learn, rest, and interact with others.

My personal goal is always to identify the aspects of my life that are less ideal or enjoyable than others and see if I can’t turn that around. I can typically do this either through thought work practices or by leaning into my Human Design. And one of those areas I find particularly unenjoyable at times is the arena of dating. When I started releasing external and internal expectations I had absorbed over time and paid attention to what my Sacral response was telling me, I found that not only was I able to fully embrace and enjoy the season of singleness I was in for a long time, but I also felt trusting and excited to engage in the world of dating once that started sounding fun to me again.

Human Design is never about changing who you are, it’s always about giving you permission to be more fully yourself, and to help you uncover and lean into the desires that are within you in any given moment. So if dating is an area you find yourself avoiding or getting stuck in, here are some high level permission slips for you to give yourself when approaching dating based off your Type:

Manifestor

It's ok to make the first move. Follow those intuitive hits and be forward and bold with communicating your desires and intentions. This allows others to quickly see if they're on the same page as you so you can both save time and energy.

Manifesting Generator

The only thing you have to worry about is whether you feel physically excited about moving forward with a person or even dating in general. Only do what feels good and fun to you, and let yourself try out multiple experiences so you give yourself more options to respond to.

Generator

Let enjoyment and excitement be your guides for saying yes to someone. Do you feel flutters in your stomach when they text you or when you think of spending time together? Follow that and be ok with saying no to opportunities that don't do the same.

Projector

Focus on the ways you can grow and acknowledge your gifts and strengths, and be patient in waiting for partners that truly see and recognize you for those traits and want to be around you because of them. Allow yourself to be pursued, and rely on your Authority to determine which people and invitations to say yes to.

Reflector

Pay attention to the people who feel simultaneously comforting and exciting to you. Allow yourself to take your time with making big decisions around dating and to let each monthly cycle of your life play out before moving in one direction or another. Protect your energy by allowing yourself to rest and retreat when you need to.

If you haven’t had your Human Design reading yet, know that it can be customized to a particular area you’re feeling stuck in. So if you want to use the knowledge around your personal Design to dive deeper into dating and relationship wisdom for you, just specify that when we communicate about scheduling it, and I’ll be happy to tailor your reading to focus more on that. Or you can order your personalized Design Guide to dive even deeper into your Type and Authority so you know how to best approach decisions and opportunities, and to live more fully into the authenticity of who you are.